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Eulogy for FatherI stand before you forthwith to pay my last respects, and to say my final goodbyes, to my father Harry.I endure to admit at the outset that it is very difficult to do this. The difficulty is not notwithstanding due to the obvious causes -- the sadness, the grief, and the sense of loss. Nor is it due to the confrontation with death in its utter finality, and the resulting fear regarding ones own mortality.No, this is difficult for me primarily because of all of the bleak handicraft that I have with my father. And while a part of me continues to nurture the hope that, had he lived longer, I would have been able to finish my business, I have to ac cutledge that this is not true.Because, the fact is, it is very hard for paroles to ever attain a really clear perspective on their own fathers.I know this to be true from my 20 years of experience as a psychologist whose central interest has been fatherhood.In the Fatherhood Course that I teach, this issue of son-father business usually comes up in the first class. We might be talking about why the men decided to enroll in the course, and after a few guys give the standard reasons, and others make some quips, the mood palpably shifts to serious as one father speaks, lower lip quivering You deprivation to know why I am here? Ill tell you why I am here. I am here so that my little son Timmy will not feel as bad about me when hes grown up as I do about my own dad. The mans words flash the room like a hurricane, and soon the theme of father son business is on every mans lips. The fathers then become sons and talk about the grief, distress and bitterness they feel toward their own fathers. Lets go into the classroom now, so that you can hear these mens voicesI never know what my father thought. He just would never talk about himself.I know he loved us because he was a good provider. He worked two jobs in graze to put all five of us though parochial school and several of us though college. But I nev er knew if he want me.To this day I wonder what he really thinks of me. Is he proud of me?Every time I call home, Dad answers the phone, and it usually goes like this Hi.